Well yesterday was the wake of Roger. There was a peaceful feeling in the room. My cousin T looked good considering what she is going through, she looked peaceful as well. Their kids, my goodness how they have grown, are so well behaved and look so much like their daddy. So many things that alot of us didn't know about him which is sad seeing he was in the family for over 15 years. I had wrote in a previous blog that they had found out about his tumor after their bad car accident which was incorrect. My cousin T stood up and talked about her life with Roger when the services were coming to an end. And I believe there was not one dry eye in the room once she was done. I don't see how she had the strength to talk for about 20 minutes but she did. They found out about the tumor a week before they got married, and yet the day of their wedding they were so happy and neither one of them looked like there was anything wrong. These two were so made for each other, they were so in love you can see just how strong their love was. She talked about the last week of his life which was amazing. On one of the days he told her that he wanted to go and get thier taxes done. He could barely talk barely get around and here he said "taxes". So off they go to get that done. The next day he said a few words and my cousin couldn't understand what he was saying but after a few times of saying it she understood that he wanted her to call and make sure that the financial part of the insurance and disability was in order. On the day that would be his last time he was taken to the hospital my cousin told the kids that she thought this was the end for their daddy and that they need to say goodbye.
Roger was able to talk to both of his babies. His son now 10 went in first and told his father, "daddy I love you and I want you to know that I am so proud that you are my daddy". Roger responds with tears "you are the best son, I am so proud that I am your father, I love you too". His little girl age 5 went in next and told her daddy that she loved him and he replied "I love you and you will always be my little girl". That was the last time they saw thier daddy alive.
How amazing that he was able to say goodbye and his kids were able to do the same. Not everyone has a chance to say what they want before someone dear passes away.
Even though I am still very angry that a wonderful person has been taken from his family, I know that he is no longer in pain and all the suffering he went through for 11 years is gone. I pray that my cousin has the strength to continue raising their children as they would have together. May GOD be there for these little children and comfort them through their journey in life.
I never knew just how amazing my cousin is until she had to go through all of these for 11 years I just wish I had her strength. She truly is incredible.