Rita's Rants n Raves

It is that time of the year when we will soon be sending out Christmas cards to those in our lives. I look back to a time in my life where I use to send out 100 Christmas cards, and I am not exaggerating. I love sending out cards to people especially for the holidays. I normally have them all ready to be mailed before Thanksgiving!
I would go store to store trying to find the " perfect cards" to buy. The fun part of sending cards is receiving them as well. Years ago I realized that I would send cards every year to the same people and there were a handfull that never sent one back in return. That's fine, no biggie alot of people don't like sending cards, it's not thier thing to do. However in my cards I would say things like "keep in touch" with my phone number listed, or "call me so we can catch up with each other and perhaps have dinner". Yes I would get a call here and there, but yet still there were people who wouldn't call nor send a card. So I came to the conclusion that I would stop sending cards to those who apparently I meant nothing to. Now yes that seems harsh to say but come on, if I can take the time to send you a card you can at least take the time to either send one back or give me a call. I know it is the season of giving, but when you are the one who is constantly giving it becomes tiring and frustrating. There are still some people that I have continued to e-mail or send a card to and I have heard nothing from them. Or there are some that say "yeah sure we have to get together soon, and soon never comes.
I know that people are busy with work and perhaps school, but the people I am talking about do not have kids, nor husbands for that matter. That is the part that really gets me going. Why is it that "I" am the only one trying to reach out? When I meet people and we click I like to stay in touch with them, and at one point of my life I did click with these people. So much so that I even had one stand up to my wedding! So I made myself promise that if I have not spoken to someone for over a year and that person has made no attempt to call or email me then I will not be sending anymore cards, no more phone calls no more nothing. It stops here. Life is precious and short and I am not going to cry over spilled milk anymore, I have way to much going on in my life right now to be dealing with people who are perhaps to busy with themselves to realize that there are people out there that touched their lives at one point. And this is not only friends (or should I say "so called friends") this goes for family as well. I would always send out cards, send invites to my kids parties, and many of my family members wouldn't even bother to call to say "gee, sorry I can't come..............
How hard is it to respond to an invite? Or to at least have the courtsey to call and say thanks for the card............... I guess people are much more busier than I am, funny but as far as I know we all work, many of us full time, and the majority of us have children, but the sad thing is that right now I am the one that has more kids than anyone and yet I am the only one reaching out to keep in touch.

That's sad, and it hurts...............................but not for long, I will now put all my energy in the people in my life "right now" and I will move forward, without looking back.