Rita's Rants n Raves

Ya know last year I swore that I was never having another birthday party for my kids, however I thought since the SuperBowl is on M's birthday (AGAIN) and seeing that I still have my foster kids, I knew that we couldn't take her out to dinner so I figured "what the hell" let's have a small party for her. Now I know that everyone has plans for that day, I understand that, there is no problem, as a matter of fact a lot of you stated that as long as it was early you would come for a few hours then head out to your superbowl parties (thank you). MY problem is not with any of you that I invited, in fact it has to do with some that I did not invite.

I received an e-mail from my BIL's wife the other day inviting us to their sons 14th b-day party. Once again it is on a Sunday and at 3 in the afternoon!! THEY LIVE IN DEKALB!!!!!!! By the time everyone shows up and eats and watches the kid open his gifts it is about 7/8 pm and it takes about an hour to drive home. WTF!!!!!!!!! And everytime they have parties for their kids (there are four of them) my husband goes whether we have plans already or not. Which in a way I understand because he is their uncle and one of the kids' GodFather but what PISSES me off is that when I "USE TO" invite them to my kids' parties they always had things going on, NOT TO MENTION, my BIL is my daughter L's GODFATHER!! It's funny how my MIL always made my hubby feel guilty if he mentioned that we had plans, her response was "You just have to go you are his GodFather". Well lady the same should apply to your other son as well. I don't expect gifts, all I want is for my kids to be around their family. Now my girls are 5 and out of the 5 parties I had for them my BIL showed up to 2 of them, was late to the girls first birthday party, in fact they showed up at the same time people were leaving because THE PARTY WAS OVER!! Let's not go into why they were late, that is another topic in itself. One party my BIL came with one of his kids the next time his wife came with 2 of their kids and let's see that leaves 2 more parties with NO SHOW!!! And the thing is they could have at least sent a card and mailed it to the girls, no need for any money in it JUST A FUCKIN' CARD WOULD HAVE BEEN NICE! We at least send cards, which I brought to my darling husbands' attention tonight. I can remember that he missed only one party for his Godchild and probably 1 party each for the other 3 kids. We have been together 10 years this year and he made sure that he was at all the parties, baptisms, & communions. It just really gets to me that we go to the parties that we are invited to, I love going to parties especially kids' parties but it would be nice if we would get the same from them in return. When it comes to my husbands' side of the family we are second best to my BIL's in-laws! And that just PISSESS ME OFF!!!!!!!!!! I thought I would feel better after I wrote this but it just got my blood boiling more, maybe a cold shower will turn the fire off. I am waiting to see what my MIL says to me in the next couple of days because the party is this Sunday and I did mention to her that 3 of my kids were having a sleepover at my cousin K's house, now I know I will be picking them up way before 3 but I am sure that her little brain will be ticking and I will get a call asking if the kids are going to the party. Boy I can't wait for that phone call, I hope she's wearing depends when she calls me :)