Growing up was hard for me, I was this skinny skinny long haired girl, who was (back then) shy and scared to talk to anyone. I am sure that all of us at one time or another have been picked on or made fun of at school. Sure I had some friends but the ones who were "cool" never gave me the time of day. Of course as I started High School, I still kept to myself only because the school I was attending was not such a safe school to be in, I still had my small group of friends but kept my distance from others.
My son came home yesterday (Valentine's Day) and he looked bummed, so I asked him what was wrong and he said he had a bad day, I told him to tell me what happened so he proceeds to go through is "ENTIRE" day, once he is done I look at him and ask "So why are you so bummed? Nothing you told me explains why you look sad". He says I can't tell you. Oh yes you can and I want to know now is my repsonse. He says that he wanted to give a girl something for Valentine's Day (she was once his little girlfriend for about a week,lol) so his big sister gave him a necklace to give to this girl. He said at recess he went up to her and asked her to be his Valentine and gave her the necklace, she looked at it and through it on the floor and said "No I will not be your Valentine, I don't like you". So I went to where my son was standing and I hugged him and said to him "I will always be your valentine son and do not worry because you are going to go through this time and time again with girls, but right now you are so young to be worried about things like this and in time there will be girls that like you and will want you to be their boyfriend." Then he says "well when is that?" My reply? "When you are 24 dude!". LOL
My thing is why are kids so rude to each other? This little girl crushed him, does she have no clue how long it took him to get up the courage to ask her? She could have at least said "Sorry R I am someone elses Valentine, and leave out the I don't like you part. But I have told my son just like I told my eldest daughter that there are going to be girls/guys coming in and out of your life and when you feel one of them is the right one you will be on cloud nine and it will feel right to be together. My son was pretty quiet the rest of the night, but today he seemed his self so hopefully he got over what happened and will just continue with his young life, going to school to learn lots of things and hopefully what happened yesterday will make him become a better person, a stronger person. I did tell him that life sucks sometimes especially if something doesn't go your way. I wish I would have had someone to talk to when I was young then I would have known that kids can be cruel to each other but don't take it personal they are just rude people trying to look cool.
Why do they want to fall in love at such a young age? Your advice to him was great and in no time another little cutie will catch his eye!